One of the Hardest Things for Me on the Road... Struggles with Celiac Disease

Being on the road all the time and out of the comforts of home many things are hard. Being away from family, not having your own space, not having a schedule are all hard. But one of the hardest things for me involves eating. Four years ago I was diagnosed with Celiac Disease. Celiac Disease is a digestive disease that damages the small intestine and interferes with absorption of nutrients from food. People who have celiac disease cannot tolerate gluten, a protein in wheat, rye, barley, and oats. Gluten is found mainly in foods but may also be found in everyday products such as medicines, vitamins, and lip balms. So since gluten is found in wheat, rye, barley, and oats, I cannot eat the regular breads, cakes, cookies, pasta, and processed foods that most people eat. If I do eat it, I get very sick, like food poisoning. Eating gluten with Celiac can cause many problems of the digestive system, including cancer. It can also cause malnutrition, anemia, osteoporosis, miscarriage, liver diseases, and more. So obviously I have to stay away from gluten. I have no choice.
When I first found out I had to go on this diet it was very depressing. Being the only person to not eat cake at a party, or have a piece of pizza was very hard. I felt alone, like I was weird, almost like the leper- an outcast. Many people did not know what gluten was and did not understand why I could not just have "one piece". My mom was so great at experimenting with new flours, trying to recreate something so I could eat it. And sometimes I forgot I was eating something 'different', but it was still hard. Now, Celiac Disease is becoming more easily diagnosed and even some athletes are choosing to go on the diet for the health benefits. Therefore there are more products out there that I can eat. We were even able to have a gluten free wedding cake! (The topper we ate a year later was not so good though, :) guess the wheat really helps it preserve.) Restaurants are now coming out with gluten free menus! Sometimes that only means 2 or 3 choices to eat, but at least I know it's safe!
So this brings me to our current situation. We are traveling all the time and visiting churches all day on Sundays and on most Wednesdays, and a majority of churches provide some type of meal for the visiting missionaries. This is such a kind thing to do for us, don't get me wrong, but it can pose a problem for me. A lot of preachers will take us out to eat. This is usually a good scenario, since I can decide what I order. But sometimes they want to go to places that are hard for me, a pizza place or Italian place, and I have to nicely explain that I can't eat there. That is what makes this so difficult. Most people have no idea what having a food allergy is like! Usually they are understanding when I ask them to change plans, but I'm always put in an awkward situation where I have to explain the problem, explain why I can't have it, explain what is safe to eat, and apologize over and over for any inconvenience. The worst case scenario is when we're invited to someones house who's already prepared a meal. I walk in, smell what's cooking, and am left guessing if I can eat it. Then we sit at the table and I have to ask questions about how it was prepared and what ingredients were used. There have been a few times I've had to refuse a meal, and eat some of my snacks I leave stashed at all times in my purse. I was told once by another missionary that we should call each pastor and explain my situation before we go to each church. However, I guess my southern upbringing makes me too scared to do this. I feel I should not assume someone is going to provide us a meal and feel it too forward to call and ask them to make plans for us. But then I'm stuck in situations like what I've been describing.
The whole point of this story is not to make people feel sorry for me, or call out a preacher for the meal they provided us, but it is to hopefully make people aware of the situations of others. Three times on our deputation travels we have actually been asked by the preacher himself if there was any special situations they needed to be aware of. What a blessing to know someone cares enough to ask even before meeting us!! I know there are many more people out there that do care, but forget to ask or don't think to ask. So I'd like to encourage all of us to think about how we can be servants to someone. Perhaps you could show a visitor where the restroom or nursery is when they visit your church. Or maybe tell someone new to the neighborhood where the best places to shop are. Let God's light shine through the way you are accommodating to others!


More about Celiac Disease- http://www.celiac.org/

Traveling in the Northeast

The last few weeks for us have been SO busy! The month of June we spent most of our time in Vermont. This was my first time that far north, and was a huge blessing because that is where the majority of Jared's family is. Jared was born in Vermont, but spent most of his childhood in Maine. So while visiting churches we were able to see a lot of his family I had never met before. How exciting to get to see Uncles and cousins with similar facial features- perhaps what our children will look like! While on our trip, we were able to drive by Jared's childhood home in Maine. Jared's parents decided to move there to try to start a church when Jared was only 1 year old. They actually held church in this home for awhile. His home looks mostly the same as it did when Jared lived there a little over 10 years ago, however, it is no longer just a home, where a church once met. It is now a business. Not just any business, but a "Spiritual Enrichment Center". Our hearts absolutely broke when we saw the sign. They claim to be "The Area’s Best Intuitives, Mediums and Psychics with Metaphysical & Spiritual Gifts." To me, I cannot believe that a place where God's people once met just so easily changed into such a place in just a short period of time. Of course that building was not the "church", it was just a building where they met, but this just brings up a point in my mind. How soon will it be until some of our church buildings are no longer holding church services, but something else that does the opposite of glorifying God? During our deputation visits, many of the newer churches we visit are not meeting in brand new buildings, but old church buildings they bought and remodeled. Church buildings that have been abandoned for years. While this is perhaps a benefit for the new church, maybe a faster, cheaper way to get started, I can't help but wonder what happened to the church that used to meet there? Why is it that so many churches don't last?
I heard a sermon last night on the lukewarm church (Revelation 3:14-22). A lukewarm church is a church that has grown careless with their walk with God. They know what they should do, but they are not doing it. A church that just "goes with the motions." God says it's better to be a "hot", on fire church for Him. Perhaps this is the problem! How can a church survive if it is not on fire for our Lord? This is actually a personal issue. The church cannot be on fire unless its individual people are on fire. This is of course a challenge for me, but I hope it is a challenge to you as well. Are we doing everything we can to stay on fire for our God, so that we can help our church thrive? This is my prayer!

Home

Home- usually such a comforting word. But for me, in the past few years "home" has been a confusing word. Since I can remember, home was my parent's house in Lithia, Florida. And then in May 2009, home changed when I married my husband and moved to his house in Duette. This past January we packed up our home to prepare for the mission field, and now joke that our car is our home. A very common question we get asked on the road is "Where is home?" I've started just saying "Florida," and then explain what part I grew up in. But then my mind begins to think, soon, my home will be in Thailand. Or will it? Where is home?
When we packed up our house to leave for deputation it was a very emotional time for me. This was the house we lived in our first years of marriage! We had so many memories in that place, and no matter when we might go back, it will never be the same! My parents have talked for years about moving out of my childhood house. And this is quite emotional for me, too. We have so many memories in that house and as time goes by, it can never go back to the way it once was.
I struggle with wanting things in life to "freeze". If nothing ever changed I would feel less anxiety and always be confident in what was going to happen next, and moving causes me to stir up whatever frozen picture I have in my mind titled "Home" and create something new. This has been on my mind a lot recently since home seems to be sort of non-existant at this point. So I decided to look into what the bible says about home.
There are quite a few references to home in the Bible. Most speaking of a house; like "then they went to their own home". But this verse sticks out to me. Acts 17:24 says "God that made the world and all things therein, seeing that he is Lord of heaven and earth, dwelleth not in temples made with hands;" And this is right! He dwells in me, and he dwells in Heaven. So this makes me think- since God is my heavenly father, (this happens after you accept Christ as your Savior) and my name is written in the Lamb's book of Life, then I am really going to end up with my home being heaven one day- living with my Heavenly Daddy. So should I really worry about not having a specific address or house to call home? No. I should really just be looking forward to the one day when my home will always stay the same. It will be Paradise!

What is Deputation??

I get asked this all the time. Growing up in church, I know it's something all missionaries do and I can explain it to people- but I realized the other day I didn't really know the definition of the word. Missionaries.org explains "A "deputy" is one appointed to represent another person or group. Newly-appointed missionaries travel across the country presenting the challenge of their field and seeking churches who will "deputize" them, send them as their representatives to the field." This is a great explanation of what we are doing. We are traveling the U.S. looking for churches to help us with our mission work.
Now help comes in many forms as we have found. Some churches can support financially. One of the most important supports we can get is prayer. Another help we have received is through meeting people that can teach us new things. Growing up in two closely located and similarly run churches, I really started out with one view of how a church should be. But traveling and visiting has opened my eyes to a whole new side of "types" of churches. And they're all ok! (if Biblical :) ) Not one is better than the other. Some have young pastors, some old; some have choirs, some have worship teams; some have mostly youth; some are mostly older folks. This all varies depending on the environment a church is started in. Seeing this is going to help us so much with accepting that a church in a different culture can in fact be DIFFERENT! It will be ok if we don't sing out of the blue book every service, or if we only meet once a week. What makes up a church is not the traditions. It's the group of people and what they're doing for the Lord.
Now deputation is hard work. It is like a never-ending road trip. Some days we drive all day, just to stop at one church, then do it again the next. It can be very tiring, but it also has so many benefits to the new missionary. One major benefit of traveling on deputation is meeting so many different people. We have met many people of the culture we will be moving to and we are learning how to communicate with them, and getting a lot of advice. Another benefit is learning to trust God with your day to day needs. Jared and I both quit our jobs in December and I'll be honest, I was sick thinking about how to pay the bills and where we would live, what we would eat. But it didn't take long for me to realize that God can take care of it all! He has provided us with the food we need, places to stay, safety, and given abundantly above what he promised with blessings of seeing new places and visiting family we hardly get to see. My faith has grown tremendously as we travel. I have less and less control of my schedule, and just have to trust that God will take care of it.
I hope this gives you a little idea of what deputation is all about and why we haven't just jumped on a plane and headed to Thailand right away. As with any big decision, it takes preparation. God Bless!
P.S. That is not our car- but sometimes I feel like it is!

My first post!

Welcome to my blog! I've been really thinking about how I can keep everyone connected with our lives, and thought I might give this a try. I love to write, so maybe this will be fun!
My husband Jared and I are on deputation preparing to do mission work in Thailand. We have been working towards our goal since September 2011, and on full time deputation since leaving home in January 2012. We hope to leave for Thailand early 2013. Please keep us in your prayers as we are busy traveling around the U.S. and making preparations for our big move.
I am hoping this blog will help me stay better connected with my family and friends back home, and give just a small view about what it's like to do what we're doing. God Bless!